I Wonder...

how much is too much?
does the feeling of empowerment last if he doesnt think you've got the upper hand?
do you really if you catch him red-handed and then let him continue to do you wrong?
at which point do you stop being in control and start looking like an idiot?
and also, when do you stop looking stupid and demand respect?
is what's good for the goose really good for the gander or is it not okay to have your cake and eat it too?
is standing up for yourself going back on your promise to be okay with the situation?